What is bullying?
Bullying usually involves a person (a ‘bully’) or group of people (‘bullies’) acting in a harmful way towards the person being bullied. The bully or bullies put themselves in a position of power over the person being bullied, which they then exert by treating this person in a negative, often derogatory way. Being bullied has a negative effect on how a person feels about themselves and can in some circumstances lead to an individual being abused.
Bullying can be experienced in different ways:
Homophobic and Biphobic Bullying –Being bullied because you are gay, lesbian or bisexual.
Cyber Bullying – Bullying that occurs online e.g Facebook, WhatsApp and Twitter
Transphobic Bullying- Being bullied because you are transgender
Workplace Bullying– Bullying that occurs at your place of work
How do you know you are being bullied?
Bullying can occur in a number of different ways, some of these include:
Calling someone derogatory names
Making racist, homophobic or sexist comments
Teasing, taunting or winding someone up
Starting and spreading rumours about someone
Giving someone the silent treatment – refusing to acknowledge or talk to someone
Excluding someone or singling them out as different
Pushing someone about
Violently attacking someone
Stealing, moving or destroying someone’s stuff
Posting videos, photos or comments about someone against their will
A person who bullies others may choose to target someone because of their gender, sexuality, disability or ethnicity. In the context of bullying it is common for a person to be targeted because they are ‘different’. You might look different, wear different clothes or have different interests. Whilst bullying might start out because someone is different, often the person being bullied can be thinking ‘why me’. As the bullying continues, sometimes the person being bullied can begin to internalise all the negative thoughts and actions being directed to them and as a result develop very low self-worth and confidence.
We are here to listen to you
If you or someone close to you has problems with bullying, then talking to a counsellor who is outside of the situation can help. Because they don’t know who you are talking about and because it is confidential, you can talk about what is going on without any repercussions.
Simply give us a call.
You can call us on Saturdays from 10am-1pm to speak to a counsellor for confidential support.